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Iyabo,

I am receiving. I am sharing this with four people-

2 who have 20 something children and find themselves saying “Well, when you are the boss you can….” These parents are facing how invested they are in hierarchy. Not gen Z!

1 white women who is head of school and seen as “not warm”. But she is very warm. she is just not patriarchal!. Condescending and rescuing is received as “warm”

1 a white women famer whose ancestors enslaved people who is closely aligned with black farmers, but also not included, and alienated from the community who raised her.

Yes. It is incredibly balm-like to here your story, where the content is different but what is under it— meaningful existence, belonging, self- worth is familiar. It makes room for curiosity and hope. You make room for curiosity and hope. So much more to say. How are you so prolific. I am worn out putting a comment together. I am grateful. So. Praying rest for your body and soul.

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Your awareness is astute, Jill! I just love you and your awareness. It is what it takes. Thank you for your prayers and thank you for sharing my post. It is exactly what I wanted - to show such a stark difference so we can see the nuances in where we live right now. Hugs.

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You're willingness to explore yourself and your cultures leaves me more curious about myself and how my culture informs my experience, which as a white woman is something I rarely have to consider. Thank you for showing us what deep introspection looks like.

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Thank you Lisa. I appreciate you. And that is why I do this. It is a luxury to not have to be introspective.

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Every post you write inspires me to pause and reflect... and FEEL more deeply into myself and what it means to be human in the world today. Your writing and your perspective help me to see the cultural soups we are all navigating. Thank you, Iyabo. I'm honored to learn from you, and to live in community with you!

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Thank you brother! So grateful for your wisdom. I do believe that being aware of culture is the first step to breaking it down. Mwah.

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I’ll be thinking about this post for a while. You’ve written so thoughtfully about your experience, and given so much grace to others who were a part of it. Firmly rooted in my American culture, for better or for worse, and in my belief that we are all - Americans, Nigerians, and everyone - beloved children of God, I want to proclaim on the authority of the Creator of us all that you are NOT an outsider. You are in the precious fold, and you are, completely and profoundly, enough.

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I agree with you as all of us as beloved children of God. Thank you for that. Hugs.

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